"Body terrorism comes in many forms. One of those forms is making ourselves and each other consciously aware of the way that our bodies look to other people. These are the most insidious forms of body terrorism: the ones that happen every day, in small ways and interpersonal interactions. "
Today's divisive quote comes from The Body is Not an Apology's article Please Don't Fix My Clothes and Subtle Ways We Body Police. Read it and scurry back.
On one hand, this lady is absolutely entitled to her feelings and she has some valid points. Body policing exists and women are by far its greatest victims. Women's bodies are treated as a publicly held commodity and that's wrong and bad and extremely damaging in many cases. But is acknowledging we have corporeal presence visible to other beings terrorism?
|Another sad victim of what I call "Bag Drag"|
They do so believing they are being helpful by making me aware of something about my body that is ‘not quite right.’ I know that the women who point this out to me are trying to be helpful. I can tell by their tone and body language that they are not judging me, simply letting me know as they would anyone that my clothing is no longer in its “proper” place. They assume that I want to be told, and so they tell me. All the same, I wish they wouldn’t."
I'm not quite able to make the leap where a woman pointing out to another woman that her skirt was hitching up in a potentially embarrassing way (can we safely assume having our backside unintentionally exposed is still embarrassing?) without judgement is body terrorism. Isn't that just doing another woman a solid?
Can you simultaneously follow the golden rule and "terrorize" someone?
I've been wrestling with this for a few days now, so weigh in and tell me where you fall on the skirt-check-as-body-terrorism concept.